Hitchhiker in the Corner Office

Disappointment, anger, depression, and frustration. These are all very valid feelings you may have upon learning that you didn’t get the job. But consider the fact that employers do not stop watching you when someone else is picked for a particular position.

I once worked with a young lady who went through a two or three round interview process, was very impressive, but in the end, was not the one picked for that position. However, she continued to handle herself in a manner that was consistent and just as impressive as the rest of her behavior during the process and the employer took notice…so much so that they offered her another position just two months later.

Bottom line is that you don’t want to blow an opportunity with a good company by acting like a sore loser in the end. Any employer will understand that it’s tough to get this type of bad news. After all, if you weren’t really upset, then you didn’t really want that position or to work with that company. So, they know there will be disappointment. But it shouldn’t end there.

So, here are some tips for you to consider adding to your “gracious loser” repertoire:

• Be thankful: Make sure you thank the hiring manager for notifying you of their decision.
• Be honest: It’s okay to respectfully let him or her know that you are disappointed. It’s expected and it will reinforce your desire. Just keep the tone respectful, professional, and not whiny.
• Be inquisitive: Many organizations will appreciate a spirit for improvement. Say: “Was there anything in particular that I could have done better or different during the interview process?” or “Is there anything you recommend I focus on improving before my next interview?”
• Be available: Make sure to tell him or her that you would appreciate being kept in mind or on-file for future applicable positions with the company.